Learn Amazing ways to win over the employer.
Learn the golden rules that will guide you to the road to success.
Remember you are being watch throughout the interview! BE READY!
1. Make a good impression, the interviewer will be watching every move you make.
2. The employer will be observing your body language
3. The first five minutes of the interview set the tone for the interview.
4. Do not slump in your seat; this is a sign of lack of confidence or not caring.
5. Try to get the questions right the first time. The employer has a deadline or a cutoff date Fill the position. This is a plus the employer will appreciate you for not wasting his time and making the interview process easier for him also.
6. The employer will make sure that you meet all the basic qualifications.
7. The employer will make sure that you meet all necessary criteria’s.
8. The employer will ask about gaps in your resume and missing dates in
employment - have the answers ready. One good answer is (example) you took time to care for a loved one.
9. The employer will ask, why are you leaving your current position?
10. The employer will ask, what have you been doing in your spare time?
11. The employer will ask, what are you looking for in the position you are applying for.
12. The employer will ask how the new job will fit into your long-term plans.
13. The employer will ask what your greatest assets are.
14. The employer will ask, what are your hobbies?
15. The employer will ask, if you can change anything about yourself what it would be?
16. The employer will ask, what are your weak points and strong points?
17. The employer will ask, tell me about yourself?
18. Describe to me how others see you.
An interview is not a casual conversation it is a set of questions and answers. Be prepared! This will make you look more professional. Organize your thoughts familiarize their company policy, procedures, and laws.
The number one mistake the job seeker make is not preparing and this will turn the whole interview process sour.
When it comes to job interviews, what you look like counts! As shallow as it sounds, your appearance reflex your personality.
Careful grooming is something everyone should pay close attention to remember looks do count and it is much better to overdress then to under-dress.
Your appearance can make or break an interviewer's decision of whether or not they should hire you.
Good employment opportunities do not fall into your hands every day he takes work and part of the job is to follow the golden rules.
The conclusion to this article is all would agree that a career requires hard work and dedication it also needs focus and preparation
The word career brings forth different thoughts for different people. When looking at work over many years
Most all would agree that a career requires hard work and dedication. You choose a career but a job picks you. A person can work anywhere but a career must be planned.
One must also be focused in preparation; often times a career is a choice career direction.
You must research your intended career, the idea of the difference between a career path and the Open job market it’s like playing darts having to do with luck you would do the work for free but really need the check.
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
HOW TO HANDLE YOUR JOB LOSS
Some job-seekers see job loss an avenue for new opportunities while others may take it quite negatively. This is important to note that it is quite natural to be filled with negative emotions after a job loss. A job loss affects individuals in a number of ways. Some common feelings that it may bring include loss of personal identity, loss of a network and emotional unpreparedness. To replace your negative feelings with positivity, here are some important steps to follow.
Adjusting & Accepting
It is advisable to use some psychology in case of a job loss. Many researches and studies have been conducted to cope with job loss. According to the researchers, it has come to light that people can handle a job loss circumstance easily if they are prepared in advance about what feeling they are going to experience. If you want to make yourself ready to muster up the courage and energy to move beyond this situation, you need to accept the situation.
Keeping Healthy
Circumstances like these need strength and the power to endure. You will feel quite stressed when you lose a job. To be able to cope with the situation well, you need to keep yourself in good shape. Therefore, it is always advisable to eat properly, exercise regularly and allow yourself some time to relax and make fun. You can find a number of hobbies and activities that you can keep yourself involved in.
Family Issues
You job loss also has a direct effect on your family. A period of unemployment makes your family become worried and uncertain for the future. Your family can not see you unhappy. It causes a lot of worry both for you and for your entire family. Under these circumstances, it is advisable not to keep yourself aloof from the family members. Therefore, always remember to talk to family, listen to what they have to say and build the family spirit of togetherness.
Coping with Stress
One of the most important issues during the period of unemployment is coping with stress. First and foremost, you need to list all the causes of your stress. Next, you need to prepare yourself as to how you can handle each one of those cause to relieve yourself of the stress. Prioritize things, avoid isolation and join a job seeking support group.
Keeping Yourself Spirited
During a job search or after losing a job, it is natural to feel negative. If not taken care of properly, these negative emotions can also take the form of depression. In any case, you need to keep your spirits up and think positively. Think about your achievements and past successes, visualize positive results and get involved in some volunteering activities. Most importantly, get yourself surrounded with people who talk and think positively.
A New Beginning
Think and use your job loss as an opportunity to begin your career anew. It is an opportunity that will give your career a new direction. Do not think about the past, as it is over. Just try to live in the present and use your experience to prepare a plan of action for the future. Use your creativity and be flexible. Even if it is criticism, use it as a constructive tool and do not be afraid of failure. Soon, you will see that the period of job loss is over and it has given your career a whole new direction.
Adjusting & Accepting
It is advisable to use some psychology in case of a job loss. Many researches and studies have been conducted to cope with job loss. According to the researchers, it has come to light that people can handle a job loss circumstance easily if they are prepared in advance about what feeling they are going to experience. If you want to make yourself ready to muster up the courage and energy to move beyond this situation, you need to accept the situation.
Keeping Healthy
Circumstances like these need strength and the power to endure. You will feel quite stressed when you lose a job. To be able to cope with the situation well, you need to keep yourself in good shape. Therefore, it is always advisable to eat properly, exercise regularly and allow yourself some time to relax and make fun. You can find a number of hobbies and activities that you can keep yourself involved in.
Family Issues
You job loss also has a direct effect on your family. A period of unemployment makes your family become worried and uncertain for the future. Your family can not see you unhappy. It causes a lot of worry both for you and for your entire family. Under these circumstances, it is advisable not to keep yourself aloof from the family members. Therefore, always remember to talk to family, listen to what they have to say and build the family spirit of togetherness.
Coping with Stress
One of the most important issues during the period of unemployment is coping with stress. First and foremost, you need to list all the causes of your stress. Next, you need to prepare yourself as to how you can handle each one of those cause to relieve yourself of the stress. Prioritize things, avoid isolation and join a job seeking support group.
Keeping Yourself Spirited
During a job search or after losing a job, it is natural to feel negative. If not taken care of properly, these negative emotions can also take the form of depression. In any case, you need to keep your spirits up and think positively. Think about your achievements and past successes, visualize positive results and get involved in some volunteering activities. Most importantly, get yourself surrounded with people who talk and think positively.
A New Beginning
Think and use your job loss as an opportunity to begin your career anew. It is an opportunity that will give your career a new direction. Do not think about the past, as it is over. Just try to live in the present and use your experience to prepare a plan of action for the future. Use your creativity and be flexible. Even if it is criticism, use it as a constructive tool and do not be afraid of failure. Soon, you will see that the period of job loss is over and it has given your career a whole new direction.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
HOW TO TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
OK, I have a quick trick question for you.That’s right, I said a quick TRICK question.
How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?
Answer quickly.
So what gives?
Why am I asking you a trick question?
Simple.
Because I’m trying to make you THINK.
I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a hundred dating tips and articles that say things like:
“If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her neck, that’s a sign of interest…”
“If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that means she’s interested in you…”
“If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you…”
I remember when I first read all this stuff.
I thought to myself “Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn’t know to look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is interested in me…“.
Well, there was ONE SMALL problem…
The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men…
And there was one BIG problem…
That problem was that none of the damn dating tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.
In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.
So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books.
OK, so you’re out at a bar with a few friends, and it’s time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips… so you decide to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing, because they’re scared, or…
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.
If you’re guilty of doing these, raise your hand.
Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here’s a thought for you…
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys “Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?”… I’d say that if you’re LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don’t know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.
This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks, etc.
Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don’t feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn’t a CHOICE.
It isn’t logical (at least, on the surface).
But once you start to “get it”, everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you “get it”, and your results change instantly as well.
So here’s a dating tip for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That’s right “mess with” them.
Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You’re a fun person.
3) You’re unpredictable.
4) You’re a bit of a “wild card”
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying “That’s doesn’t make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?”.
That’s a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.
Good.
I want you to STOP following your “be nice and kiss ass” instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something.
Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.
Shake your head in despair and tell her that she’s screwing up her chances with you.
Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff…
HOW TO TELL IF SHE’S INTERESTED
Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is…
I’m going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that’s it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.
I know that this sounds a little “Duh-ish”, but stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with “Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us…” and she laughs at my joke, then IT’S ON!
If I’m standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say “Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room…” in a serious tone of voice… and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT’S ON!
If I’m talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her “What’s with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?” and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT’S ON!
In a nutshell, what I’m trying to say is:
1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
As long as you use how she’s responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you’ll have a MUCH easier time spotting the “she wants me” clues…
…Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?
Answer quickly.
So what gives?
Why am I asking you a trick question?
Simple.
Because I’m trying to make you THINK.
I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a hundred dating tips and articles that say things like:
“If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her neck, that’s a sign of interest…”
“If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that means she’s interested in you…”
“If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you…”
I remember when I first read all this stuff.
I thought to myself “Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn’t know to look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is interested in me…“.
Well, there was ONE SMALL problem…
The problem is that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 1,000 interactions with men…
And there was one BIG problem…
That problem was that none of the damn dating tips I read said a single thing about how to MAKE women give you these signals.
In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women need to learn not only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE ATTRACTION in women so they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST PLACE.
So let me share with you some dating tips on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting books.
OK, so you’re out at a bar with a few friends, and it’s time to meet some interesting women.
You look around, and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads to one side, looking you in the eye, and licking their lips… so you decide to DO SOMETHING.
What do most guys do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing, because they’re scared, or…
2) Something typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.
If you’re guilty of doing these, raise your hand.
Then take your raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here’s a thought for you…
If you put 100 guys in a bar with one beautiful women sitting alone, and you say to all 100 of the guys “Hey guys, which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that woman feel a SEXUAL ATTRACTION for you?”… I’d say that if you’re LUCKY, one of them will claim that he can do it.
In other words, for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don’t know and doing something that will TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their universe.
This is one of the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to dance, buying them drinks, etc.
Now, something you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women don’t feel ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn’t a CHOICE.
It isn’t logical (at least, on the surface).
But once you start to “get it”, everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once you “get it”, and your results change instantly as well.
So here’s a dating tip for you to try:
MESS WITH WOMEN.
That’s right “mess with” them.
- Tease.
- Bust on.
- Be difficult.
Because it INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care less what she thinks of you.
2) You’re a fun person.
3) You’re unpredictable.
4) You’re a bit of a “wild card”
5) You GET IT.
Now, you might be shaking your head right now and saying “That’s doesn’t make any sense. Why would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead of being nice?”.
That’s a good question.
But for now, take the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself again.
Good.
I want you to STOP following your “be nice and kiss ass” instincts when you first meet a woman, and instead practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun of something.
Go to hand her something, then pull it away at the last second.
Shake your head in despair and tell her that she’s screwing up her chances with you.
Say something Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your face.
Can ya feel me, dog?
Now the good stuff…
HOW TO TELL IF SHE’S INTERESTED
Well this is what you were looking for, so here it is…
I’m going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.
Here it is:
1) You engage her.
2) She engages you back.
Yes, that’s it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.
I know that this sounds a little “Duh-ish”, but stay with me here.
If I walk into a restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I answer with “Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us…” and she laughs at my joke, then IT’S ON!
If I’m standing at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say “Hey, watch it, OK? Keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room…” in a serious tone of voice… and she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again playfully, then IT’S ON!
If I’m talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her “What’s with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?” and she starts laughing and making excuses, then IT’S ON!
In a nutshell, what I’m trying to say is:
1) Stop looking around for signals from women that they’re “interested” in you.
2) Stop CARING whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
3) Instead, start TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do, then assume that IT’S ON!
As long as you use how she’s responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you’ll have a MUCH easier time spotting the “she wants me” clues…
…Because YOU ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
Monday, July 26, 2010
REACHING THE TOP MOST PEAK OF ORGASM
Reaching the top most peak of orgasm for women is like finding your way through the busy streets of China. It has lots of twist and turns and U- turns; you can get lost and end up being laughed at or gotten angry at. But if you can discover the way to females orgasm, you will be greatly rewarded.
There are so many ways to reach that elusive orgasm. It will not be as elusive if you both parties pay attention to each other. It usually takes both parties’ efforts and proper communication to have that fulfilling and orgasmic experience. For women, the number one rule is to be comfortable with yourself.
You cannot and will not enjoy yourself with another person if you don’t like yourself- your body. Learn to wear your skin with confidence and sensuality. Those flabby flaws will always be there- accept it, love it, enjoy it. Also try exploring yourself- masturbation can be another way of exploring pleasure with yourself and another is finding-out which part of your body gives you most pleasure.
Is it the soft kiss in the neck, the thigh, and the toes or on the back? It is important to realize other crevices of pleasure in your body aside from your vagina. Foreplay is very important in having a gratifying orgasm. This is where both of you creates the mood.
Soft-lit room, romantic music, sexy aroma… creating a conducive ambiance for sex and pleasure. In foreplay, being comfortable and not uptight is critical to prevent embarrassments. Having an “it’s okay” state of mind can help both of you to go with the flow of your bodies and your urges. Communicating is a fundamental course in intercourse.
Never be a shamed to tell your partner what sexually excites you. Don’t be uncomfortable to say where your erogenous zones are. Inform your partner how you want to be fondled in certain areas and the intensity of the pressure. If you want him to give you more licking at the back tell him so.
Besides both of you are after pleasure, right? So don’t be embarrassed. Giving suggestions and propositions can be quite exciting, too. The excitement of experimenting in love- making can heighten the female’s orgasm. Experimenting, like role playing or using props- like hand cuffs, blind-folds, vibrators whip creams, ice creams, and those modern topical cream products which enhances female’s libido and orgasm can make your sex life more enjoyable and fun.
Of course, making- love is not complete without giving each other oral sex, it has to be given in both persons concerned- it is fact that every body loves it and anyone who says otherwise is a supreme hypocrite. A balance of taking and giving pleasure is critical. For men, remember that ramming your penis inside your partner’s vagina like a rabbit will never give her the orgasm she needs.
It is a must for men to know where the clitoris is and to stimulate it appropriately. Vaginal stimulation alone seldom gives the woman orgasm. It is the heat of the foreplay and the stimulation of the clitoris that makes the woman reach the ever longed for orgasm. Learn to listen not just with your ears but also with your eyes.
Body language can send a lot of messages in love-making. This only shows that communication is not only important outside the bedroom but it is just as important inside the four-walls of the bedroom. Having healthy communication inside the bedroom is a form of intimacy that can build a deeper bond between the both of you.
Making- love is a gift, take pleasure in it, indulge in it..Enjoy!
There are so many ways to reach that elusive orgasm. It will not be as elusive if you both parties pay attention to each other. It usually takes both parties’ efforts and proper communication to have that fulfilling and orgasmic experience. For women, the number one rule is to be comfortable with yourself.
You cannot and will not enjoy yourself with another person if you don’t like yourself- your body. Learn to wear your skin with confidence and sensuality. Those flabby flaws will always be there- accept it, love it, enjoy it. Also try exploring yourself- masturbation can be another way of exploring pleasure with yourself and another is finding-out which part of your body gives you most pleasure.
Is it the soft kiss in the neck, the thigh, and the toes or on the back? It is important to realize other crevices of pleasure in your body aside from your vagina. Foreplay is very important in having a gratifying orgasm. This is where both of you creates the mood.
Soft-lit room, romantic music, sexy aroma… creating a conducive ambiance for sex and pleasure. In foreplay, being comfortable and not uptight is critical to prevent embarrassments. Having an “it’s okay” state of mind can help both of you to go with the flow of your bodies and your urges. Communicating is a fundamental course in intercourse.
Never be a shamed to tell your partner what sexually excites you. Don’t be uncomfortable to say where your erogenous zones are. Inform your partner how you want to be fondled in certain areas and the intensity of the pressure. If you want him to give you more licking at the back tell him so.
Besides both of you are after pleasure, right? So don’t be embarrassed. Giving suggestions and propositions can be quite exciting, too. The excitement of experimenting in love- making can heighten the female’s orgasm. Experimenting, like role playing or using props- like hand cuffs, blind-folds, vibrators whip creams, ice creams, and those modern topical cream products which enhances female’s libido and orgasm can make your sex life more enjoyable and fun.
Of course, making- love is not complete without giving each other oral sex, it has to be given in both persons concerned- it is fact that every body loves it and anyone who says otherwise is a supreme hypocrite. A balance of taking and giving pleasure is critical. For men, remember that ramming your penis inside your partner’s vagina like a rabbit will never give her the orgasm she needs.
It is a must for men to know where the clitoris is and to stimulate it appropriately. Vaginal stimulation alone seldom gives the woman orgasm. It is the heat of the foreplay and the stimulation of the clitoris that makes the woman reach the ever longed for orgasm. Learn to listen not just with your ears but also with your eyes.
Body language can send a lot of messages in love-making. This only shows that communication is not only important outside the bedroom but it is just as important inside the four-walls of the bedroom. Having healthy communication inside the bedroom is a form of intimacy that can build a deeper bond between the both of you.
Making- love is a gift, take pleasure in it, indulge in it..Enjoy!
SUCCSES BEGINS WITH YOU
In today’s economic climate talented people are being forced to look for their next job or opportunity. Many of them have valuable skills and experience to offer an employer; and some are being given opportunities that take them out of their comfort zone. Some will get stuck in self-doubt, fear or limited thinking. Others will take the risk to play a bigger game because they are filled with confidence, have a compelling vision and focus on the positive.
If you are reaching for a level of success that takes you into unknown territory, these three strategies enable you to “show up” as “your best”:
Present yourself with unwavering confidence
You are connected to your worth and filled with confidence when:
1) you claim your strengths (qualities, talents, skills, purpose, values)
2) rely on the past experiences that make you an expert.
3) acknowledge and break through personal challenges (self-limiting beliefs, emotions and behaviors).
When you think, feel, speak and live with authenticity, you are congruent. This alignment empowers you. You will have a sense of security that enables you to see clearly and take risks. When you speak from this truth, others will pay attention. And, as you overcome personal challenges, you are on your way to self-mastery.
Feel inspired and empowered by your vision
Attract successful outcomes through the power of Positive Thinking
When you trust that who you are is enough and expect your vision to become a reality, you are able to remain positive in the unknown and allow what you want to find you. You attract positive outcomes when you;
1) have gratitude for what you have and where you have been
2) approach the unknown with a sense of fullness, not lack; possibilities, not obstacles
3) do your best in the present moment while letting go of attachment to the outcome.
The success you want to accomplish begins with you. Whether facing a setback, a change or new beginning, you are challenged to lead with “your best.” Your skills, talents and wisdom make you an authentic expert. Your vision gives you a picture of success and sense of purpose. And, as you focus on the positive, you attract it. When you reach for what you want with confidence, vision and positive thinking, you are filled with inspiration and possibility. You will move through the unknown with ease. Your plan and actions will take you the rest of the way and reinforce the success that you are.
If you are reaching for a level of success that takes you into unknown territory, these three strategies enable you to “show up” as “your best”:
Present yourself with unwavering confidence
You are connected to your worth and filled with confidence when:
1) you claim your strengths (qualities, talents, skills, purpose, values)
2) rely on the past experiences that make you an expert.
3) acknowledge and break through personal challenges (self-limiting beliefs, emotions and behaviors).
When you think, feel, speak and live with authenticity, you are congruent. This alignment empowers you. You will have a sense of security that enables you to see clearly and take risks. When you speak from this truth, others will pay attention. And, as you overcome personal challenges, you are on your way to self-mastery.
Feel inspired and empowered by your vision
Your vision reflects a specific picture of having what you want. When the vision shows up in your life, it fills you with a personal purpose, like financial freedom and serves a universal purpose, like bringing hope to others. The vision reflects an expansive level of accomplishment and the two purposes give it deep personal meaning. When you imagine having it right now, you are filled with positive feelings that add passion to the picture and purpose.
A vision energizes you, keeps you focused and serves as a barometer upon which to evaluate your choices. If a specific job or business venture is not aligned with your vision, proceed with caution. You may be compromising your success, health and well-being.Attract successful outcomes through the power of Positive Thinking
When you trust that who you are is enough and expect your vision to become a reality, you are able to remain positive in the unknown and allow what you want to find you. You attract positive outcomes when you;
1) have gratitude for what you have and where you have been
2) approach the unknown with a sense of fullness, not lack; possibilities, not obstacles
3) do your best in the present moment while letting go of attachment to the outcome.
The success you want to accomplish begins with you. Whether facing a setback, a change or new beginning, you are challenged to lead with “your best.” Your skills, talents and wisdom make you an authentic expert. Your vision gives you a picture of success and sense of purpose. And, as you focus on the positive, you attract it. When you reach for what you want with confidence, vision and positive thinking, you are filled with inspiration and possibility. You will move through the unknown with ease. Your plan and actions will take you the rest of the way and reinforce the success that you are.
Sunday, July 25, 2010
HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND MAKE LOVE LAST
A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve your life in all aspects, strengthening your health, your mind and your connections with others as well. However, it can also be one of the greatest drains if the relationship is not working. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you get back.
Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:
What makes a healthy love relationship?
Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, loving touch and holding on brain development. These benefits do not end in childhood. Life without physical contact with others is a lonely life indeed.
Keep physical intimacy alive Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. In a committed relationship between two adult partners, physical intercourse is often a cornerstone of the relationship. However, intercourse should not be the only method of physical intimacy in a relationship. Regular, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, or kissing—is equally important.
Be sensitive to what your partner likes. While touch is a key part of a healthy relationship, it’s important to take some time to find out what your partner really likes. Unwanted touching or inappropriate overtures can make the other person tense up and retreat—exactly what you don’t want.
Spend quality time together
You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. Everything may have seemed new and exciting, and you may have spent hours just chatting together or coming up with a new, exciting thing to try. However, as time goes by, children, demanding jobs, long commutes, different hobbies and other obligations can make it hard to find time together. It’s critical for your relationship, though, to make time for yourselves. If you don’t have quality time, communication and understanding start to erode.
Simple ways to connect as a couple and rekindle love
* Commit to spending quality time together on a regular basis. Even during very busy and stressful times, a few minutes of really sharing and connecting can help keep bonds strong.
* Find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning.
* Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.
Healthy relationships are built on give and take
If you expect to get what you want 100% of a time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.
Recognize what’s important to your partner
Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise. On the flip side, it’s also important for your partner to recognize your wants and for you to state them clearly. Constantly giving to others at the expense of your own needs builds resentment and anger.
Don’t make “winning” your goal
If you approach your partner with the attitude that things have to be your way or else, it will be difficult to reach a compromise. Sometimes this attitude comes from not having your needs met while younger, or it could be years of accumulated resentment in the relationship reaching a boiling point. It’s alright to have strong convictions about something, but your partner deserves to be heard as well. You are more likely to get your needs met if you respect what your partner needs, and compromise when you can.
Learn how to respectfully resolve conflict
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but to keep a relationship strong, both people need to feel they’ve been heard. The goal is not to win but to resolve the conflict with respect and love.
* Make sure you are fighting fair.
* Don’t attack someone directly but use “I” statements to communicate how you feel.
* Don’t drag old arguments into the mix.
* Keep the focus on the issue at hand, and respect the other person.
Love and relationships take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change through life as a team.Learn about ways to keep a healthy relationship strong, or work on repairing trust and love for a relationship on the rocks.
Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:
What makes a healthy love relationship?
- Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.
- Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, through, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right.
- Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too.
- Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Critical to communication are nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm.
Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, loving touch and holding on brain development. These benefits do not end in childhood. Life without physical contact with others is a lonely life indeed.
Keep physical intimacy alive Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. In a committed relationship between two adult partners, physical intercourse is often a cornerstone of the relationship. However, intercourse should not be the only method of physical intimacy in a relationship. Regular, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, or kissing—is equally important.
Be sensitive to what your partner likes. While touch is a key part of a healthy relationship, it’s important to take some time to find out what your partner really likes. Unwanted touching or inappropriate overtures can make the other person tense up and retreat—exactly what you don’t want.
Spend quality time together
You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. Everything may have seemed new and exciting, and you may have spent hours just chatting together or coming up with a new, exciting thing to try. However, as time goes by, children, demanding jobs, long commutes, different hobbies and other obligations can make it hard to find time together. It’s critical for your relationship, though, to make time for yourselves. If you don’t have quality time, communication and understanding start to erode.
Simple ways to connect as a couple and rekindle love
* Commit to spending quality time together on a regular basis. Even during very busy and stressful times, a few minutes of really sharing and connecting can help keep bonds strong.
* Find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning.
* Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.
Healthy relationships are built on give and take
If you expect to get what you want 100% of a time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.
Recognize what’s important to your partner
Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise. On the flip side, it’s also important for your partner to recognize your wants and for you to state them clearly. Constantly giving to others at the expense of your own needs builds resentment and anger.
Don’t make “winning” your goal
If you approach your partner with the attitude that things have to be your way or else, it will be difficult to reach a compromise. Sometimes this attitude comes from not having your needs met while younger, or it could be years of accumulated resentment in the relationship reaching a boiling point. It’s alright to have strong convictions about something, but your partner deserves to be heard as well. You are more likely to get your needs met if you respect what your partner needs, and compromise when you can.
Learn how to respectfully resolve conflict
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but to keep a relationship strong, both people need to feel they’ve been heard. The goal is not to win but to resolve the conflict with respect and love.
* Make sure you are fighting fair.
* Don’t attack someone directly but use “I” statements to communicate how you feel.
* Don’t drag old arguments into the mix.
* Keep the focus on the issue at hand, and respect the other person.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
WHAT KILLS RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO SAVE YOURS
In a moment I'm going to tell you the root cause that kills all relationship and strangled yours. Right now you're suffering because of your relationship. The emotional turmoil and pain you're in because of your breakup or relationship problem is costing you your quality of life.
You may have searched for the answer to the question, "how do I get my ex back" and I'm going to help you by showing you why your relationship broke up.
It is not about loss of interest, loss of attraction or incompatibility. It is much deeper so read on.
Breakups and relationships problems takes place because of one reason: hidden beliefs.
Here is how to know if you have beliefs that is hurting your relationship:
1. You often find yourself thinking negatively about love/romantic relationships. It is difficult for you to consistently assume you are creating success or you can create the success you want in relationships.
2. No matter how hard you try, you can't seem to attract, meet and keep a potential partner. You feel resentful/stuck and self-pity.
3. You often get into a dating situation where the person you're really attracted to doesn't want what you want. In other words, you are always left with a low-level convenient type of arrangement while dating, ie. Serial daters/Friends with benefits types/ etc.
4. You find yourself with partners who are evasive/controlling. You're often in push/pull situations. You often feel let down and faced with many empty promises.
5. You face breakups often. You're always the person who gets dumped.
6. You have a general belief that men are jerks, lie, cheat, want to be friends with benefits, are losers, and just don't want to commit these days.
7. You are always worried while you're in relationships. You tend to give of yourself completely and not get your feelings reciprocated.
8. You find yourself stuck in unsatisfying relationships where your partner(s) doesn't commit to you the way you know you deserve.
9. You're find yourself getting pulled in when you feel attraction for someone you think could make a great partner. It's difficult or impossible for you to control your emotions and you often see yourself creating a make belief relationship even if it's only been a few dates.
10. You make bad decisions often. When relationships are new, you agree to things like sex because you believe it will bring your partner closer. You believe it will make your partner want you more.
11. Sometimes you find yourself keep moving towards someone even if they keep rejecting you and it's difficult to have self-control. You find yourself craving for attention and will end up contacting your partner excessively. For example, too many phone calls, text messages, emails.
12. You talk about your relationship pain often or you get together with individuals who encourage your feelings of anger, hurt, pain and frustration by making partners you're with to blame for not responding to you the way you'd like.
Hidden false beliefs is the one and only reason why you are having relationship problems. If you want to save your relationship or get your ex back, you must know the role of beliefs in destroying your relationship.
People act the way they believe. They also do what they believe. It is impossible to believe something and not do it. When people say they believe something and don't do it, they actually don't believe it.
You were taught certain things about love. When you're functioning in a relationship, you are actually acting out your unconscious programs. If you have false beliefs about what relationships should look like, you are going to act out those false beliefs in ways that causes your partner to lose attraction for you. These are unattractive habits that you may be so unaware of but it triggers a reaction in your partner and cause emotional withdrawal.
When you have the right beliefs, you can save your relationship because you will act in a way that is amazingly appealing to your ex or partner. When your ex sees this kind of emotional intelligence, you will fix the root cause of why your breakup took place.
If you want to get a second chance to save your relationship, you must stop acting in the ways that are rooted in your beliefs and start to get the results you've been searching for.
It is critical to know how to get your ex to feel good about talking to you again. If you're not able to do this, you wont get your relationship back.
You may have searched for the answer to the question, "how do I get my ex back" and I'm going to help you by showing you why your relationship broke up.
It is not about loss of interest, loss of attraction or incompatibility. It is much deeper so read on.
Breakups and relationships problems takes place because of one reason: hidden beliefs.
Here is how to know if you have beliefs that is hurting your relationship:
1. You often find yourself thinking negatively about love/romantic relationships. It is difficult for you to consistently assume you are creating success or you can create the success you want in relationships.
2. No matter how hard you try, you can't seem to attract, meet and keep a potential partner. You feel resentful/stuck and self-pity.
3. You often get into a dating situation where the person you're really attracted to doesn't want what you want. In other words, you are always left with a low-level convenient type of arrangement while dating, ie. Serial daters/Friends with benefits types/ etc.
4. You find yourself with partners who are evasive/controlling. You're often in push/pull situations. You often feel let down and faced with many empty promises.
5. You face breakups often. You're always the person who gets dumped.
6. You have a general belief that men are jerks, lie, cheat, want to be friends with benefits, are losers, and just don't want to commit these days.
7. You are always worried while you're in relationships. You tend to give of yourself completely and not get your feelings reciprocated.
8. You find yourself stuck in unsatisfying relationships where your partner(s) doesn't commit to you the way you know you deserve.
9. You're find yourself getting pulled in when you feel attraction for someone you think could make a great partner. It's difficult or impossible for you to control your emotions and you often see yourself creating a make belief relationship even if it's only been a few dates.
10. You make bad decisions often. When relationships are new, you agree to things like sex because you believe it will bring your partner closer. You believe it will make your partner want you more.
11. Sometimes you find yourself keep moving towards someone even if they keep rejecting you and it's difficult to have self-control. You find yourself craving for attention and will end up contacting your partner excessively. For example, too many phone calls, text messages, emails.
12. You talk about your relationship pain often or you get together with individuals who encourage your feelings of anger, hurt, pain and frustration by making partners you're with to blame for not responding to you the way you'd like.
Hidden false beliefs is the one and only reason why you are having relationship problems. If you want to save your relationship or get your ex back, you must know the role of beliefs in destroying your relationship.
People act the way they believe. They also do what they believe. It is impossible to believe something and not do it. When people say they believe something and don't do it, they actually don't believe it.
You were taught certain things about love. When you're functioning in a relationship, you are actually acting out your unconscious programs. If you have false beliefs about what relationships should look like, you are going to act out those false beliefs in ways that causes your partner to lose attraction for you. These are unattractive habits that you may be so unaware of but it triggers a reaction in your partner and cause emotional withdrawal.
When you have the right beliefs, you can save your relationship because you will act in a way that is amazingly appealing to your ex or partner. When your ex sees this kind of emotional intelligence, you will fix the root cause of why your breakup took place.
If you want to get a second chance to save your relationship, you must stop acting in the ways that are rooted in your beliefs and start to get the results you've been searching for.
It is critical to know how to get your ex to feel good about talking to you again. If you're not able to do this, you wont get your relationship back.
STEPS TO HAVING A POSITIVE MIND SET
You've heard the saying "your mind is a terrible thing to waste". Who ever came up that is on the money, and once you decide what/how you want your life to be, you must take a look at how you think. Changing your mindset is most effective way to ensure that you will be successful in all your endeavors. Changing how your mind thinks sounds pretty easy but it takes work. It is easy to let the mind wander and worry, but the individual who can control their own mind has the world on his plate.
What is a Negative Consciousness?
A Negative Consciousness is a mindset where an individual continually feels negative emotions like fear, hatred, anger, greed, revenge, and superstition. When the mind is constantly feeling these negative emotions nothing good comes into creation. This negative energy brings you more of what you don’t want into your life. A negative mindset makes you feel like you will never accomplish anything and you doubt that you will be successful. The negative mind has no room for any positive emotions. This mindset causes you to give up on your dreams before you really get started on achieving them or even procrastinate to the point that you never act on your goals. Often times you may not even know you are being negative when you are in fact negative. The negative consciousness is easy to create since no “work is required to achieve this mindset is almost human nature. Here is one sign that a negative mindset could be holding you back.
Do you ever decide to take action on a goal then immediately begin to think about all the ways you couldn't possibly succeed? That is the easiest way to know you have a negative mindset.
What is a Positive Consciousness?
A Positive Consciousness is a mindset where an individual continually feels positive emotions like desire, love, faith, sex, romance, enthusiasm, and hope. The positive mindset is grateful for all they have and will have, and they are faithful to the actions that will bring about change and prosperity. The individual who has a positive mindset does not have room in their thought for negative emotions. Someone with a positive mindset always finds the good in every situation and knows that goals aren't met overnight and are willing to take a step in faith and stay committed to achieving their goals, positively. If you are actively controlling your thoughts in order to have your mind filled with positive emotions then you have a positive consciousness.
So how do you change your mind?
First you must agree that negative and positive emotions can not co-exist. You must have fear or faith; there is no room for both. Most people have to do a little work to build a Positive Mindset and that is easy to do once you have the "tools" you need. You may be thinking to yourself "how can I focus on the positive when negativity is all around me?" This is where affirmation, imagination, meditation, and vision boards come into play. You can learn how to change your mindset and begin living the life you want just by using:
1. Affirmations 2. Imagination 3. Meditation 4. Vision boards
Here is each tool laid out for you in detail.
1. Affirmation- Positive self talk is a way to embed positive thoughts on your mind and subconscious
2. Meditation - Take a few moments throughout the day to sit and relax your mind in a quiet space
3. Imagination- Imagine you are living a life exactly as you want
4. Vision Board - A poster board with pictures of what your life looks like when your goals are met
Last Thoughts.
There are many ways to change your mindset you just have to decide that you want to live better. You have to desire to have more, be more and do more. The tools outline above can be brought together in a way to meet your personal needs so that you can have that positive mindset that you need to have the success you desire.
What is a Negative Consciousness?
A Negative Consciousness is a mindset where an individual continually feels negative emotions like fear, hatred, anger, greed, revenge, and superstition. When the mind is constantly feeling these negative emotions nothing good comes into creation. This negative energy brings you more of what you don’t want into your life. A negative mindset makes you feel like you will never accomplish anything and you doubt that you will be successful. The negative mind has no room for any positive emotions. This mindset causes you to give up on your dreams before you really get started on achieving them or even procrastinate to the point that you never act on your goals. Often times you may not even know you are being negative when you are in fact negative. The negative consciousness is easy to create since no “work is required to achieve this mindset is almost human nature. Here is one sign that a negative mindset could be holding you back.
Do you ever decide to take action on a goal then immediately begin to think about all the ways you couldn't possibly succeed? That is the easiest way to know you have a negative mindset.
What is a Positive Consciousness?
A Positive Consciousness is a mindset where an individual continually feels positive emotions like desire, love, faith, sex, romance, enthusiasm, and hope. The positive mindset is grateful for all they have and will have, and they are faithful to the actions that will bring about change and prosperity. The individual who has a positive mindset does not have room in their thought for negative emotions. Someone with a positive mindset always finds the good in every situation and knows that goals aren't met overnight and are willing to take a step in faith and stay committed to achieving their goals, positively. If you are actively controlling your thoughts in order to have your mind filled with positive emotions then you have a positive consciousness.
So how do you change your mind?
First you must agree that negative and positive emotions can not co-exist. You must have fear or faith; there is no room for both. Most people have to do a little work to build a Positive Mindset and that is easy to do once you have the "tools" you need. You may be thinking to yourself "how can I focus on the positive when negativity is all around me?" This is where affirmation, imagination, meditation, and vision boards come into play. You can learn how to change your mindset and begin living the life you want just by using:
1. Affirmations 2. Imagination 3. Meditation 4. Vision boards
Here is each tool laid out for you in detail.
1. Affirmation- Positive self talk is a way to embed positive thoughts on your mind and subconscious
2. Meditation - Take a few moments throughout the day to sit and relax your mind in a quiet space
3. Imagination- Imagine you are living a life exactly as you want
4. Vision Board - A poster board with pictures of what your life looks like when your goals are met
Last Thoughts.
There are many ways to change your mindset you just have to decide that you want to live better. You have to desire to have more, be more and do more. The tools outline above can be brought together in a way to meet your personal needs so that you can have that positive mindset that you need to have the success you desire.
Friday, July 23, 2010
WHY DO MEN DUMP WOMEN?
For a woman being dump by a man can be a total bummer not to mention embarrassing. We can’t exactly pinpoint why men dump women because there can be several factors involved like incompatibility, beliefs, culture and many others. And these factors are given; you cannot force yourself into someone you are not compatible with, right? However, if you believe that you have done everything you could and yet still unable to let your man stay in the relationship then ask yourself if you are guilty of the common reasons why men dump women.
The“Me, myself and I” syndrome. It’s all about you, you, you and you. You don’t consider his feelings; you don’t take care of him when he is sick. You don’t help him carry the grocery bag, you don’t listen to him and worst you don’t wait for him to climax after you had yours.
Men cannot stand selfishness, so if you think your man is keeping his distance, ask yourself when was the last time you prioritized him. Another reason that you will definitely get dumped by your man is if you cannot keep your word. You tell him this and yet do another.
You are constantly tardy and you always keep him hanging. Worst, you give fallacious excuses. In other words, you cannot tell a simple truth. It doesn’t matter if you look like Angelina Jolie; you will get dumped if you cannot get your story straight. Chronic or pathological liars drive men away like crazy.
Another sure fire reason why men dump women is by being a control freak. Was there a time that he invited you to dinner and it took you the whole fifteen minutes reiterating to the waiter how you want your salad done? Or he invited you to a day at the beach but you refused because you don’t want the wind messing up your hair? You will never change your schedule for anything, unplanned trips is never an option.
Spontaneity scares you. Men dump women if they are a complete nag and a complainer. I know that you want the best for your lover that is why you constantly correct him. Do you find yourself telling him this regularly? “Why can’t you….?” or “Do you ever do this or that…?” If you do, then don’t be surprise if your guy is becoming elusive by the minute.
This is because you make him feel that he cannot do anything right. A word of advice, woman, you cannot get your message across if you nag him, learn to boost his ego and he is all ears. The secret here is to try to be a little more comfortable with yourself, be a little happier and livelier.
Do this and you will become an instant man magnet.
The“Me, myself and I” syndrome. It’s all about you, you, you and you. You don’t consider his feelings; you don’t take care of him when he is sick. You don’t help him carry the grocery bag, you don’t listen to him and worst you don’t wait for him to climax after you had yours.
Men cannot stand selfishness, so if you think your man is keeping his distance, ask yourself when was the last time you prioritized him. Another reason that you will definitely get dumped by your man is if you cannot keep your word. You tell him this and yet do another.
You are constantly tardy and you always keep him hanging. Worst, you give fallacious excuses. In other words, you cannot tell a simple truth. It doesn’t matter if you look like Angelina Jolie; you will get dumped if you cannot get your story straight. Chronic or pathological liars drive men away like crazy.
Another sure fire reason why men dump women is by being a control freak. Was there a time that he invited you to dinner and it took you the whole fifteen minutes reiterating to the waiter how you want your salad done? Or he invited you to a day at the beach but you refused because you don’t want the wind messing up your hair? You will never change your schedule for anything, unplanned trips is never an option.
Spontaneity scares you. Men dump women if they are a complete nag and a complainer. I know that you want the best for your lover that is why you constantly correct him. Do you find yourself telling him this regularly? “Why can’t you….?” or “Do you ever do this or that…?” If you do, then don’t be surprise if your guy is becoming elusive by the minute.
This is because you make him feel that he cannot do anything right. A word of advice, woman, you cannot get your message across if you nag him, learn to boost his ego and he is all ears. The secret here is to try to be a little more comfortable with yourself, be a little happier and livelier.
Do this and you will become an instant man magnet.
HANDLING A BREAK UP ---- 3 ESSENTIAL TIPS
Men and women are forever hooking up, getting together and forming relationships. Just as frequently, those relationships break up. Most breakups, no matter how friendly, involve significant pain. Men in particular have a harder time dealing with breakups. Perhaps because they've been taught from birth how to handle their emotions, women actually deal with the pain of a breakup better than men. If you are suffering from a breakup right now, then simply learn a few tips which can help you in dealing with your break up in a much better way.
Tip One: Cry if you want to
Don't imagine that crying makes you less of a man - all it does is prove you're human. Assuming you really cared for this girl, and were committed to the relationship you shared with her, it's only natural that the pain will take some time to heal. Crying in public places is unfitting, but it's absolutely fine to cry in private, at home. The fact is that the relationship's really over - grieving will help you accept that fact and move on with your life.
Tip Two: It's over - why worry about whose fault it is?
At this point, what does it matter whose fault it is? The relationship's finished and nothing you can do is going to resurrect it - so don't burden yourself with anything that's going to slow down your getting on with your life. This is the time when you need to lover your being more so that you don’t shatter more. You need not to blame neither punish yourself because of someone who doesn't even care about you. The pain you're going through now is much like an illness - and when you're fighting it off, you don't go out of your way to acquire another. It is alright to feel low and depressed but try to think positive rather than negative in such situations. You know that if you smile at people, even strangers, invariably they'll smile back. Give it a shot - it'll help boost your own emotional health.
Tip Three: There's nothing wrong with accepting help
We all have support groups. They're usually not formal, with set meeting times. They're our family and friends, and they're there to give all the support and help you need. Even if you don’t want to share with them its good to just stay in their company and feel loved. This would make you feel that you have others and you would not feel lonely. Get involved with your friends and do things which you enjoy the most. You can even ask your friends to clear out the room if it has got gifts from her hanging on the wall or in the drawer.
Break ups can be a little complicated to handle but in order to find the true companion you would have to pass through these paths. You can always make a difference as long as you remember to think and act positively. As soon as you get over the split, you can get on with your life. There's someone waiting for you out there, but you won't be ready to meet her until you've dealt with the breakup.
Tip One: Cry if you want to
Don't imagine that crying makes you less of a man - all it does is prove you're human. Assuming you really cared for this girl, and were committed to the relationship you shared with her, it's only natural that the pain will take some time to heal. Crying in public places is unfitting, but it's absolutely fine to cry in private, at home. The fact is that the relationship's really over - grieving will help you accept that fact and move on with your life.
Tip Two: It's over - why worry about whose fault it is?
At this point, what does it matter whose fault it is? The relationship's finished and nothing you can do is going to resurrect it - so don't burden yourself with anything that's going to slow down your getting on with your life. This is the time when you need to lover your being more so that you don’t shatter more. You need not to blame neither punish yourself because of someone who doesn't even care about you. The pain you're going through now is much like an illness - and when you're fighting it off, you don't go out of your way to acquire another. It is alright to feel low and depressed but try to think positive rather than negative in such situations. You know that if you smile at people, even strangers, invariably they'll smile back. Give it a shot - it'll help boost your own emotional health.
Tip Three: There's nothing wrong with accepting help
We all have support groups. They're usually not formal, with set meeting times. They're our family and friends, and they're there to give all the support and help you need. Even if you don’t want to share with them its good to just stay in their company and feel loved. This would make you feel that you have others and you would not feel lonely. Get involved with your friends and do things which you enjoy the most. You can even ask your friends to clear out the room if it has got gifts from her hanging on the wall or in the drawer.
Break ups can be a little complicated to handle but in order to find the true companion you would have to pass through these paths. You can always make a difference as long as you remember to think and act positively. As soon as you get over the split, you can get on with your life. There's someone waiting for you out there, but you won't be ready to meet her until you've dealt with the breakup.
HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY BUILD CUSTOMER LOYALTY
The secret to the success of a business primarily lies in its ability to attract and retain its customers. Any good trader understands that 80% of the business originates from 20% of his/her customers. It is therefore essential for any business to develop an effective customer loyalty strategy that will not only attract new customers and retain them, but also ensure the continued survival of the business. Often, it is more costly to attract new customers than it is to retain old ones. Thus, the correct strategy will definitely payoff if applied right.
An effective customer loyalty strategy should aim at leaving a lasting impression in the mind of any customer: to the new one-a reason to come back again; to the returning one- a reason not to leave again; and to the regular one- a reason why that business is their choice for all time.
One recommended strategy is adopting good customer loyalty programs ranging from coupons to promotions. You can even go further and provide additional credits for only members of a program. You can also keep a historical records of various products in your business. This ensures that product or service is always available for those repeat customers. Keep your customers posted on upcoming opportunities, especially on new products or services.
In a world filled with electronic and technological opportunities, ranging from telephones wide screen televisions, to internet facilities, the customer has a variety of sources from which to obtain information about a service or product. Yet, in spite of all these advancements, a business does well to retain the good old-fashioned people communication skills. A customer feels more appreciated through direct interaction with someone else over a product, service, or even just to discuss a problem. Thus, personal interaction with your customers is an essential customer loyalty strategy to take up. You can do this by taking time to learn their names, faces and contacts, their history with the business (especially for repeat customers), and appraising them constantly. This leaves a greater impression than a billboard or coupon ever will.
For effective people communication, another effective customer loyalty strategy is the organizing of sales training seminars from time to time for your employees. Such seminars for employees are, not only geared at equipping them with the essential people skills, but also empower them to handle any situations that may arise with the customer and make the right decisions. Alongside customer loyalty, is the issue of employee loyalty. A businessperson that is loyal to his employees is in turn rewarded by employees that are positive and secure about their jobs, who in turn pass on the same loyalty to the customers.
Keeping the business growing and improving is also an important customer loyalty strategy. You can achieve this by establishing feedback with your regular customers on ways of improving product and service delivery to them. In this way, the customer feels part and parcel of the business. Ultimately, more than new or returning customers, loyal customers are a worthwhile asset; they are a walking, talking, and interactive ad for your business.
An effective customer loyalty strategy should aim at leaving a lasting impression in the mind of any customer: to the new one-a reason to come back again; to the returning one- a reason not to leave again; and to the regular one- a reason why that business is their choice for all time.
One recommended strategy is adopting good customer loyalty programs ranging from coupons to promotions. You can even go further and provide additional credits for only members of a program. You can also keep a historical records of various products in your business. This ensures that product or service is always available for those repeat customers. Keep your customers posted on upcoming opportunities, especially on new products or services.
In a world filled with electronic and technological opportunities, ranging from telephones wide screen televisions, to internet facilities, the customer has a variety of sources from which to obtain information about a service or product. Yet, in spite of all these advancements, a business does well to retain the good old-fashioned people communication skills. A customer feels more appreciated through direct interaction with someone else over a product, service, or even just to discuss a problem. Thus, personal interaction with your customers is an essential customer loyalty strategy to take up. You can do this by taking time to learn their names, faces and contacts, their history with the business (especially for repeat customers), and appraising them constantly. This leaves a greater impression than a billboard or coupon ever will.
For effective people communication, another effective customer loyalty strategy is the organizing of sales training seminars from time to time for your employees. Such seminars for employees are, not only geared at equipping them with the essential people skills, but also empower them to handle any situations that may arise with the customer and make the right decisions. Alongside customer loyalty, is the issue of employee loyalty. A businessperson that is loyal to his employees is in turn rewarded by employees that are positive and secure about their jobs, who in turn pass on the same loyalty to the customers.
Keeping the business growing and improving is also an important customer loyalty strategy. You can achieve this by establishing feedback with your regular customers on ways of improving product and service delivery to them. In this way, the customer feels part and parcel of the business. Ultimately, more than new or returning customers, loyal customers are a worthwhile asset; they are a walking, talking, and interactive ad for your business.
TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
Many social scientists believe that humans are different from animals because we developed language and communication, and that these are the hallmark of Human development. As language and communication advanced our ancestors were able to combine their ideas and experiences with one another and this nurtured the evolution of culture, religion, and science.
Although speaking and communicating is innately human it is often mysterious. In fact, our historic predecessors believed that language and communication were awesome gifts from the gods; the Greek god Hermes, the Egyptian Thoth, and the Roman god Mercury were considered to be the givers of speech, language, and communications.
Communication deserves to be understood as more than a mysterious gift from the gods. We need to answer the question 'what is communication?' Communication stems from a Latin root communicare ‘to make common’. Essentially, communication means transferring ideas, thoughts, desires, etc. from the privacy of ones mind to a common place where other people can share them. But communication is more than speaking. Linguists claim that spoken words are only 7% of communication and that body language, facial expressions, tonality, and style constitute the rest of the 93%.
To account for the 93% of nonverbal communication and to successfully communicate, motivate, and educate we will be greatly helped by focusing on these three points:
· Be clear about the purpose of the communication. By knowing your goal you will organize your thoughts and align your body language and tonality to support your words.
· Be aware of your audience. Keep your attention on the audience and on what you hear, see, and feel from them. Effective communication is a sharing, an exchange that flows back and forth. If you are too internally involved you are perhaps speaking, but not communicating.
· Be flexible. By attending to your audience you may discover that they are misinterpreting or misunderstanding your words and ideas. Keep adjusting your communication until you are convinced that they are hearing what you are intending.
Additionally, effective communicators use the following guidelines:
· Communicate to your listening audience. Understand your listener, get inside their head. To ensure that your message is heard, communicate by expressing your message from the point of view of the other party.
· Communication is most successful when you can abandon your ideas of ‘the proper way’ and look at the world from the eyes of the person with whom you are communicating. Your audience will listen and absorb your information when you present it in their terms.
· Communicate to your audience using their goals, interests, experiences and background as your references.
Finally, powerful communicators consistently implement skills that build rapport and respect, and ensure clarity. They develop and practice:
· Listening skills. Many people in a conversation aren’t really listening. Person B is already preparing responses to person A while person A is still talking. Listening is requisite for an exchange of ideas.
· Paying attention. They know how to focus on the other person, notice their speech, their body movement, their inflection and volume.
· Eye contact. Keeping eye contact with the other person will help keep your attention on them. It also stops your mind from wandering.
· Mirroring. Mirroring is a method of creating similarity, building rapport; a sense of liking. You become a mirror reflecting the body language, speech style and vocabulary of the other person. DON’T BE OBVIOUS. This is a subtle reflection.
Remember, when you communicate your whole body and minds are delivering a message, not just your words. Communicate to your listener. Develop listening and rapport building skills, and be alert, aware, and improving yourself through practice and study.
Although speaking and communicating is innately human it is often mysterious. In fact, our historic predecessors believed that language and communication were awesome gifts from the gods; the Greek god Hermes, the Egyptian Thoth, and the Roman god Mercury were considered to be the givers of speech, language, and communications.
Communication deserves to be understood as more than a mysterious gift from the gods. We need to answer the question 'what is communication?' Communication stems from a Latin root communicare ‘to make common’. Essentially, communication means transferring ideas, thoughts, desires, etc. from the privacy of ones mind to a common place where other people can share them. But communication is more than speaking. Linguists claim that spoken words are only 7% of communication and that body language, facial expressions, tonality, and style constitute the rest of the 93%.
To account for the 93% of nonverbal communication and to successfully communicate, motivate, and educate we will be greatly helped by focusing on these three points:
· Be clear about the purpose of the communication. By knowing your goal you will organize your thoughts and align your body language and tonality to support your words.
· Be aware of your audience. Keep your attention on the audience and on what you hear, see, and feel from them. Effective communication is a sharing, an exchange that flows back and forth. If you are too internally involved you are perhaps speaking, but not communicating.
· Be flexible. By attending to your audience you may discover that they are misinterpreting or misunderstanding your words and ideas. Keep adjusting your communication until you are convinced that they are hearing what you are intending.
Additionally, effective communicators use the following guidelines:
· Communicate to your listening audience. Understand your listener, get inside their head. To ensure that your message is heard, communicate by expressing your message from the point of view of the other party.
· Communication is most successful when you can abandon your ideas of ‘the proper way’ and look at the world from the eyes of the person with whom you are communicating. Your audience will listen and absorb your information when you present it in their terms.
· Communicate to your audience using their goals, interests, experiences and background as your references.
Finally, powerful communicators consistently implement skills that build rapport and respect, and ensure clarity. They develop and practice:
· Listening skills. Many people in a conversation aren’t really listening. Person B is already preparing responses to person A while person A is still talking. Listening is requisite for an exchange of ideas.
· Paying attention. They know how to focus on the other person, notice their speech, their body movement, their inflection and volume.
· Eye contact. Keeping eye contact with the other person will help keep your attention on them. It also stops your mind from wandering.
· Mirroring. Mirroring is a method of creating similarity, building rapport; a sense of liking. You become a mirror reflecting the body language, speech style and vocabulary of the other person. DON’T BE OBVIOUS. This is a subtle reflection.
Remember, when you communicate your whole body and minds are delivering a message, not just your words. Communicate to your listener. Develop listening and rapport building skills, and be alert, aware, and improving yourself through practice and study.
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