All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible. This is something I often repeat, however I cannot stress highly enough the need to know what you want, and to define a singular, overriding goal for your life. We do not need to know how we will accomplish that, we just need to be mindful that the things we do, move forward this singular purpose.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

HAVING SEX IN WATER!! POINTS TO CONSIDER

Making love within the water is without a doubt a great idea that a person should certainly try out at least once. You may either have sex in your bathing room or in your swimming pool. One may also have sexual intercourse in open waters like ponds and streams that are normally not frequented by people, however one should not do it because, making love in public places is an offense. In this write-up we'll look at four different places wherein one can have sex in water:

In the swimming pool: Making love inside your private pool is an excellent idea. However, I highly recommend you do not think of having sexual intercourse under water because it not only very difficult but also life-threatening. Take your girl to the pool edge where it is shallow and safe and you can also grip the edges whilst thrusting her. If your pool has stairs then you may sit on them while your girlfriend rides you in a cowgirl position.

Bath tub sex: How much you have fun with making love in the bathtub depends on how big it is. The spacious the better, but it really can not beat the level of sexual excitement that one gets from making love inside a swimming pool. In spite of this, the small area of the bath tub doesn't necessarily mean that you cannot have intercourse at all. You can definitely give your woman an amazing orgasm by fingering her, furthermore, you can even ask your girl to ride you in cowgirl position.

However, it must be noted that it's not necessary to make love inside the bath tub. Instead, you can enjoy some intense foreplay activities after which you can finish it off in the bedroom. The reason being that it is sometimes complicated to turn on a woman, and so foreplay within a bathtub will make it simple for you to turn her on.

Intercourse underneath shower: . Standing below a shower with water flowing all over your body is better than being half-immersed with water entering your private parts. I'd recommend you to get a few anti-slip stickers to prevent falling and potentially leading to any injury. With soap lathering all over the body the enjoyment aspect doubles up and it results in being even more exciting than a usual sexual intercourse.

Install a bar or handle to firmly grip while having standing-up intercourse and also you can even lie down on floor in case your bath room is large enough.

Intercourse in open waters: If you're an adventurous type of person then you can try making love inside a river, stream or beach however I reiterate that it isn't wise. It's a serious offense for you to indulge in sexual activities in open spots, so be careful that the place you choose must be far away from your city and with no one around to report you to police. Furthermore, the quality of water in open water bodies like lakes and river streams is bad and not good for your private parts. If you would like make love on the seashore then I would like to mention that the vaginal opening of your woman becomes rough because of the salt that gets lodged there. However, some people still go out to open waters and have sex since it gives them a sense of excitement that doubles the sexual pleasure.

Friday, August 6, 2010

WOMEN'S SECRET SEXUAL DESIRES

Ah, women and sex, for a man, nothing can be more interesting than a discussion that includes these two fascinating words. However, if a guy wants to get more out of these two words other than just mere discussion, then he needs to be in depth on not just what women want in bed, but their secret sexual desires as well. But first, he needs to understand the basics of women sexuality.

The first thing that a man needs to know is the sexual energy flow of women. Unlike most men, where the genitals are the base and pole of their sexual energy, for women, however, their sexual positive pole is in their heart and breast.

This means that a woman usually needs to feel desired and love before she opens herself up for sex. Once the woman’s heart is opened, the sexual energy then flows down to her sex organ and begins to desire intercourse. Keep in mind that the sexual energy of a female is more like water on the boil. It can take a little time to let the temperature rise. Whereas for a man, it is quick to ignite like a fire, and is ready for intercourse in a matter of minutes.Inability to understand both energies can lead to miscommunications and problems.

The second thing that a man needs to know about the basic sexuality of a woman is the motive behind love-making.

When it comes to making love, men usually continue the habit they learned from masturbating, where the goal is just to ejaculate. For women, however, making love is all about connection. If a man’s goal is just to reach his own orgasm, rest assured he is going to have trouble in the sex department. If a man knows what’s best for his sex life, then he should take time connecting through foreplay and other sexual activities with his woman.

Now, I’m going to let you in on some of the secret sexual desires of women.

- Go all over her body. This is one of the secret desires that most women want their lover to do. Women love it when their man kisses them all over their body. “I want him to kiss and lick down from my toes all the way to my legs, buttocks and back. I want him to excite sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina, and I’m sure majority of women also yearn for this,” said one woman and I happened to agree with her.

- Longer, louder oral sex. And I mean both ways. It’s no secret that women want longer oral sex, but they love giving it, too especially if the man is vocal enough to tell her that she’s doing a great, uh, job.

- Variety. Women get bored with the same old routine in bed. I’m sure she’s going to love it when her man will treat her rough and raunchy after a night of delicate sex.

- Let her lead. Allow the woman to get in touch with her dominant side by allowing yourself to be her sex slave tonight. Believe me, a man will be fulfilling every woman's most desired sexual fantasy with this one.

- Blindfolds. Bring the woman’s excitement level to great heights tonight by focusing on sensation alone. Rest assured that having a blindfold on will always be one of every woman’s secret desires- for a woman, the feeling of total surrender is always sexy and rousing.

Nobody was born timid, so they say. That’s why when it comes to sexual desires, encourage your woman to open- up, make her lose her inhibition and let her guard down. She will thank you for it.

Succeed With R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

During difficult economic times, there is a tendency to have doubts and concerns about one’s future. Past disappointments and perceived failures can bring fears, doubts, and frustrations roaring to the surface to confuse and complicate our present situation.

The seeds of joy, success, love, and abundance are found in R.E.S.P.E.C.T., and we must not let our past interfere with our present and future goals.

Resilience is our ability to draw upon the strength and wisdom we have gained from our past experiences, and use these to move through and beyond our present circumstances. Resilience is our ability to learn from the challenges and difficulties in our lives and then build on what we have learned. If the boat you are cruising through life on, hits some rough waters there is no reason to lose hope or confidence in yourself or your future. It is not always easy to pick ourselves up and keep moving on down the road, but there are a few things we can do:

(1) Be honest with ourselves and acknowledge what has happened and then be aware and acknowledge what part, if any, we played in what has happened. We then must do what is necessary to find completion and be at peace with ourselves and what has happened.

(2) Do not resist or fight the circumstances we find ourselves in because this resistance can very easily morph into negativity, and the negativity can be expressed as simple irritation, or more intensely as anger, depression, severe anxiety, or resentment.

(3) Resist and ignore the temptation to place blame. Spending more than five seconds blaming other people or circumstances for our situation is a waste of time and valuable energy, and only serves to cloud our vision and misdirect our focus. It also increases our anger and frustration and makes us feel like a “victim”. Once we begin to feel like a victim, it’s hard to move out of that mentality.

(4) Focus your time and energy on moving forward with the deeply felt conviction and knowledge that your current situation has only temporarily moved you off your path, and
no-thing or no one can keep you from your goal.

Enthusiasm is essential to success, and it doesn’t have to be a cheering banner waving enthusiasm. Believe in your goal and move toward your goal with a deep passion for what you are doing. Most of us have experienced a situation or heard of a circumstance where someone had an idea that may not have been particularly innovative or exciting, but the person was so excited, passionate, and committed to the idea that h/she got others excited. The enthusiasm and passion od the person was so contagious that others joined in and helped the idea succeed. If you have an idea or goal you believe in, do not hesitate out of fear of what others may think or say; let others see your passion, enthusiasm, and commitment, and Go For It!

Self is the most important factor in achieving your goals and desires. The roots of your success, prosperity, and love, grow very deep within you and involve who and what you think you are as opposed to who and what you really are. It is not enough to simply have a more positive attitude
or strive to become more motivated. Here are some things to seriously ponder as you strive to change how you think of yourself:

1) You are the person with whom you have the most intimate relationship, so if you do not know, accept, trust, and love yourself, you will find your path to success and love filled with unnecessary roadblocks of your own construction.

2) If you are experiencing difficulties, remember that you are not your present circumstances. Your circumstances do not define who and what you are now, or will be in the future.

3) Your past disappointments and perceived failures do not define who you are now or will be in the future.

4) Do not expect perfection from yourself or anyone else. Although we know on an intellectual level that no one is perfect, we have come to expect perfection from ourselves because this attitude and expectation formed over a lifetime of hearing parents, teachers, coaches, and others tell us what they expected of us and from us. We bought in to what we heard and came to believe we should be the best and the brightest. Be only the best you want to be, and shine as bright as you want to shine for yourself. Bring more joy, love, and good into your life and the lives of others because you want to, not because someone else wants you to.

5) Your life is happening in this moment, not in past experiences or future maybes. Dwelling in the past can trick you into believing your future will repeat the past.

6) Be loving and compassionate with yourself, and love with wisdom. This simply means to nurture, support, comfort, and love yourself in equal proportion to the way and amount of nurturing, love, support, and comfort you give to others.

7) Do Not listen to the subconscious chatter recorded in the sound studio of your past. Record a new sound track over the chatter; and record it in the sound studio of your dreams and desires.

8) Your possibilities are limitless, but if you do not believe in yourself it will be very difficult for others to believe in you.

Purpose is the next important factor. Your purpose or intention is your desired outcome, and it must be clearly defined. The clearer you are the easier it will be to follow through to a successful outcome. In order to maintain motivation, it is important to have a strong personal incentive to accomplish the goal and achieve what you desire. When deciding on the purpose or intention behind your goal, consider the following two questions: (1) Does my goal improve my life and/or the lives of others? (2) Do I have a talent or gift to share with the world and no longer want to push it to the “back burner”?

What you believe to be your purpose at one point in your life may change; so give yourself the permission and space to grow and change. What is most important is to think and act in a purposeful manner regardless of what you are doing at any given time in your life.

Extraordinary is who and what you really are. You may have a job you consider ordinary; you may see your daily activities as ordinary; and you may think you look ordinary. However, the truth is that, in reality, you are extra ordinary. You are not your job, your looks, or your daily activities. You are, in fact, a special and unique creation with talents and abilities that you are meant to share and use to enjoy your life to the fullest and help others to thrive and enjoy their lives. Don’t just “hang in there”, or just try to survive or “get by”. Focus your thoughts on the extraordinary person you truly are because you will only go as far as your beliefs allow you to go. When you know and understand your inherent worth, and feel worthy to receive all that you desire it will begin to show up in all areas of your life. As Martha Graham once said, “You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled then something has been lost”.

Commitment is difficult for a procrastinator. It is hard to commit to achieving a desired goal when you keep putting off doing the things necessary to do in order to get where you want to go. I know because I did just that for a very long time until I realized that my past mistakes and disappointments had nothing to do with my present and future goals. Fear and doubt will drain your energy, wound your spirit, rip holes in your heart, and block your creativity and motivation. Commit to your goal, follow through with your plan, be consistent with your efforts, and persevere until you reach your goal.

Trust is very simply Faith in Yourself, Your Goals, and your God.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND --- FOLLOW THIS STEPS

Fighting isn't necessarily a bad thing in a relationship, but if most of your time together is spent fighting, you've got a problem that the two of you have to deal with. Together. You each have your own ideas and opinions. If fights develop every time the two of you disagree on something, though, then there's something else going on. If you keep in mind that you're in this relationship because of love, you should be able to address the problem together and strengthen that relationship. These are the steps to follow if you'd like to stop the constant fighting with your girlfriend:

Step 1: Talk calmly. Shouting at each other begins a series of confrontational choices, none of which help. Remember, the key phrase here is "talking over your differences," not "yelling over your differences." Shouting and yelling can also lead to more violent behavior, like breaking and throwing things.

Step 2: You need to sit together and figure out why it is you're fighting. Often, the details of any particular fight are unimportant, because one fight follows on another as part of a string, when the root cause hasn't been resolved. A fight is resolved when you find the underlying issues and deal with them.

Step 3: Get out and walk around for a while. When you find out about a problem, instead of going at it hammer and tongs, take a break so that you each can cool off and give the matter some serious thought. Try a few hours break before things escalate, any time you feel a fight coming on. Don't start a fight; instead, take a break and think things over. Be honest with yourself - does this fight make sense? Or is this a way you each hurt each others' feelings?

Step 4: When you talk things over, remember that you love her, and listen carefully to what she has to say. Remember that you're working together to solve a problem, not beat each other up. It may be that the things that make you different are the things that make your relationship great. Respect those differences and be patient with each other's weaknesses and shortcomings. Don't judge each other, but be honest at all times. Respecting each other, then, is a critical component of your campaign to end the fighting.

Step 5: Your fight doesn't need a winner! Don't expect that you're going to end every fight with one agreeing with the other. It's pretty easy, in fact - just acknowledge that you don't agree with each other and move on. It's nice to find areas of agreement, but finding those areas of disagreement also help build the relationship, because you learn more about each other and what makes you each unique.

Step 6: Recognize and admit your own mistakes, and forgive each other. When you admit your own mistakes, you're expecting that she's going to forgive you for them - so you have to forgive her for her mistakes as well. You can build a stronger relationship by forgiving freely. One of the keys to stopping the trend of fighting with your girlfriend, then, is to make certain to forgive each other whenever you do fight. Telling her that you're sorry won't be hard if you remember why you love her.

Step 7: If it's still not working, then it's time to seek outside help. If the time comes that you realize you can't solve the problem on your own, go ahead and look for help from a qualified third party. If the two of you working together can't come to a resolution, it may be that you need the benefit of another perspective. There are many qualified people who can help you - psychologists, counselors and clergy, to name a few. They're equipped to help with your problems.

The routine bickering and fighting with your girlfriend will pretty much end once you've followed these 7 steps. You'll still have disagreements now and then. That's normal. When the disagreements arise, it's critical that you address them together, like adults.